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Infidelity happens in a lot of
relationships. When it happens, what can you do? Do you need to get
a divorce or kick your mate out? This is a question that many
of us are faced with that has serious consequences.
When you have children and/or
years of history with a person, what do you do?
You get to say whether you will kill off your relationship or try to
repair it. But, whatever you do, there are a couple of things you
should think about.
To begin with, infidelity can
be overcome. You can repair the trust if you follow a few
specific steps to do so. For more information on exactly how
to do so, I suggest you get this book How To
Get Your Love Back Now which goes into detail on how to turn
that breakdown into a breakthrough.
Another issue you have to think
about after infidelity, whether you stay or move on to another
partner, is how to cheat proof your relationship. It will not do you
a lot of good to move on to another relationship if you just run
into the same problem. So you need to look at how this problem
happened, and if there is anything you need to help not create it
again in the future.
Of course, your lover cheating on you may have nothing to do with
you. It could be all on them, their bad choices around alcohol or
opportunity. But even then, you need to make sure you choose your
next mate with more care.
But often times, as you may suspect, both mates have a part in
cheating. Did things get too cold or distant between you?
This is a clear red flag for infidelity. Did you stop
connecting as often? You know, did your relationship start to become
burdened by jobs and kids and other adult responsibilities?
Did the sex get too mechanical,
less spontaneous? Were you have tired sex, when one or both of
you was exhausted from long days? How to cheat proof your
relationship is worthy of a book in itself, but here are a few
things you can do.
Remember that your mate wants a lover, not a roommate. Don't let the
intimacy slip away from your relationship. You're an adult, use your
smarts to figure out how not to let things grow too cool or distant
between you. There is an entire course that can help with
this. Go here for a free course on
And the other thing you can do is play more. Play often goes out of
a relationship over time. But studies have shown a little play goes
a long way. Going on date nights can be a good way to keep play in
the relationship. But again, this subject is huge in and of itself.
But if you are dealing with infidelity, you can recover from it and
you can learn to help prevent it in the future. You really can cut
down the likelihood that it will happen again if you pay attention
to what helped create it.
There is much more to learn
about this, but these two things can help.
We never got taught relationship skills in school.
Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay
off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.