Relationship Advice Help On Infidelity

Infidelity happens in a lot of relationships. When it happens, what can you do? Do you need to get a divorce or kick your mate out?  This is a question that many of us are faced with that has serious consequences. 

When you have children and/or years of history with a person, what do you do? 

You get to say whether you will kill off your relationship or try to repair it. But, whatever you do, there are a couple of things you should think about.

To begin with, infidelity can be overcome.  You can repair the trust if you follow a few specific steps to do so.  For more information on exactly how to do so, I suggest you get this book How To Get Your Love Back Now which goes into detail on how to turn that breakdown into a breakthrough.

Another issue you have to think about after infidelity, whether you stay or move on to another partner, is how to cheat proof your relationship. It will not do you a lot of good to move on to another relationship if you just run into the same problem. So you need to look at how this problem happened, and if there is anything you need to help not create it again in the future.

Of course, your lover cheating on you may have nothing to do with you. It could be all on them, their bad choices around alcohol or opportunity. But even then, you need to make sure you choose your next mate with more care.

But often times, as you may suspect, both mates have a part in cheating. Did things get too cold or distant between you?   This is a clear red flag for infidelity.  Did you stop connecting as often? You know, did your relationship start to become burdened by jobs and kids and other adult responsibilities? 

Did the sex get too mechanical, less spontaneous?  Were you have tired sex, when one or both of you was exhausted from long days?  How to cheat proof your relationship is worthy of a book in itself, but here are a few things you can do.

Remember that your mate wants a lover, not a roommate. Don't let the intimacy slip away from your relationship. You're an adult, use your smarts to figure out how not to let things grow too cool or distant between you.  There is an entire course that can help with this.  Go here for a free course on Relationship Intelligence.

And the other thing you can do is play more. Play often goes out of a relationship over time. But studies have shown a little play goes a long way. Going on date nights can be a good way to keep play in the relationship. But again, this subject is huge in and of itself.

But if you are dealing with infidelity, you can recover from it and you can learn to help prevent it in the future. You really can cut down the likelihood that it will happen again if you pay attention to what helped create it.

There is much more to learn about this, but these two things can help.

We never got taught relationship skills in school.  Spending a few minutes learning more relationship intelligence can pay off with years of more love, deeper bonding and emotional connection.