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A Young Male Hits a Low Point in His Life, Works Through His Depression, Gets Alcohol Treatment for His Abusive and Excessive Drinking, Fortifies His Self Image, and Overcomes His Divorce Issues

Wednesday, June 2nd, 2010

Samuel was a twenty-seven-year-old financial planner who was sick of feeling depressed everyday and tired of his careless drinking behavior. In a word, he was sick of feeling tired every morning, he missed his old drive for doing various things he liked, he hated the hangovers he experienced on a regular basis, he was irate with himself for spending his hard-earned money on a worthless habit, and he was tired of going through failed relationship after failed relationship because of his constant drinking.

Additionally he was aggravated with the many times he failed to pass an alcohol test at work, he hated the fact that he had to go to court for his second DWI, he was bored with his drinking friends, he was fed up with paying for alcohol-related attorney fees, and he was disgusted with how out-of-shape he was.

In addition to the obvious alcohol-related health problems he now experienced, in all probability the most troublesome part of his drinking routine was the untrustworthy and devious individual he had turned into. In his heart of hearts he knew that he had been lying about his drinking behavior to his relatives, friends, and family and he also knew he had been untruthful with himself about the “positive” consequences of drinking. What is more, he rationalized wolfing down two or three drinks before going to social events and he also rationalized needing two or three drinks as soon as he got up so that he could deal with the “stress” at his place of employment.

His Depression and His Irresponsible and Heavy Drinking Result in Significant Changes in His Life

Without a doubt Samuel was sick of putting up with the adverse effects of his depression and his abusive drinking and eventually made up his mind that something important had to change in his life. So he decided that he would abstain from drinking, develop a new circle of friends, involve himself in some worthwhile hobbies, get professional counseling, start exercising, and start focusing on becoming a more healthy person. In short, Samuel got to a key moment in his life during which he realized that he hit a low point in life and was now ready to start the slow climb back to health.

One of the ways that Samuel put his “plan” info operation was by asking for a transfer at work. When his request was granted, he moved 1,000 miles away to a new city. If nothing else, this absolutely made making new pals and detaching himself from his old pals simpler. Then he visited with a healthcare professional in his new city and made an appointment for a thorough physical examination.

Samuel Meets With a Healthcare Professional About His Heavy Drinking and His Depression

After meeting with the physician and taking a number of lab tests, it was determined that Samuel had made the unfortunate change from alcohol abuse to alcohol addiction and therefore was in need of alcohol detoxification and alcohol treatment. At this time, the healthcare practitioner made it a point to review the different signs of alcoholism, the symptoms of alcoholism, and information about long term effects of alcohol with Samuel. The healthcare practitioner then told Samuel that it was concluded that he was clinically depressed and in need of treatment for this medical problem.

Samuel Makes up His Mind to Build Up His Body by Going to the Gym, Living an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, Taking Vitamins, Eating Nutritious Foods, and Drinking Spring Water

Due to his enthusiasm for following through with the treatment regimen, after six weeks of residential rehab, Samuel was ready to begin rehabilitation on an outpatient basis. At this point in time, he began working at his new job and over the weeks began building up his body by taking vitamins, drinking spring water, living an alcohol-free lifestyle, eating wholesome foods, and working out. Samuel also addressed his spiritual side of life by joining the local Pentecostal church and participating in regular services.

After approximately seven months of outpatient rehab during which time he never went through a relapse, Samuel quit going to alcohol treatment and instead started going twice per week to local Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. Going to these meetings helped Samuel continue his alcohol-free style of life, they gave him the support he sought after, and they served as a unceasing reminder of the adverse outcomes that are related to careless drinking.

After going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings approximately seven-and-a-half months Samuel felt that he was ready for a relationship and so he started going out with Margaret, a young woman he met at church. It simply astonished Samuel how much more prepared he was for a dating relationship now that he had his careless and hazardous drinking under control. In truth it also amazed Samuel how much better life was now that he wasn’t under the control of his excessive and unhealthy drinking. Life was now rewarding and full of possibilities that he could have never hoped for or realized when he was engaged in abusive and hazardous drinking less than a year ago.

A Success Story That is a Testament to the Value of Alcohol Rehabilitation and the Power of Positive Change

Samuel’s success story is a tribute to the relevance of alcohol rehabilitation and the power of positive thinking. As Samuel thought about his newfound self worth and motivation for involving himself in worthwhile, healthy activities, he was actually grateful that he made up his mind to do something constructive about his careless drinking instead of giving into his depression and into the lure of his alcohol dependency. The result: his life now has a positive direction, he enjoys his new job responsibilities, he is involved in a caring relationship, he is in charge of his life rather than letting himself deteriorate under the control of his alcoholism, and he has more energy now compared with any time in his adult life.


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The Impact Between Children And Divorce

Sunday, September 13th, 2009

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The number one concern of parents who decide to get divorced is the impact of getting a divorce and their children’s well being. By understanding the fears of children whose parents are getting divorced, knowing what parents can do to help address and alleviate those fears, and doing those things, parents can help their children through what will probably be the roughest time of a child’s life.

Being Afraid

Divorcees and their children have to be concerned. Their world has been turned upside down, and their future is suddenly uncertain. Parents can reduce the uncertainty – and the stress and fear – by working out all these details before they even tell the children about the divorce, so they can answer all the child’s questions at one time.

Where Will They Live?

Kids know that Mom and Dad are going to have separate residences from now on. The child is never going to have her mother and father instantly available to her at the same time under one roof where they all live. This knowledge is extremely stressful, especially in cases where the family home has to be sold or where parents live in different cities after the divorce.

Parents who work out these details beforehand can help children fearing change and  divorce get through this difficult time by eliminating the stress associated with uncertainty.

How Will Their Time Be Divided Between Their Parents?

Children and divorcing parents know all about visitation and split parenting time, because they no doubt have friends whose parents are divorced. From these friends, the children know there will be change and confusion about who is going to pick them up from school, where they will spend holidays, how they will get their homework done, who will feed them, or where they will sleep.

Even when the divorced family gets along extremely well, visitation is the most stressful aspect of divorce children. After all, who among us would take a job that required us to split our time, 50/50, between two different locations? Not many. Having two homes in two different places, and having to shuttle all our stuff back and forth between the two of them, would be too stressful for many adults to undertake. Yet divorcing parents expect children to adapt and adjust.

Many divorced parents have adopted the practice of leaving the children in the family home and having the parents be the ones who move in and out of the picture. This arrangement may not be for everyone, but it is probably the best way to deal with the biggest problem of children and divorce.