Posts Tagged ‘family therapist’

The danger signs of a marriage in trouble

Monday, August 17th, 2009

A lot of times a marriage can become rocky.Than there are other times when a couple may have disagreements.And then you have those times when a marriage could be in trouble and in danger.It is during this time when you can only save it through counseling.

With marriage being a big part of our society, as well as a big part of our personal lives, there should be steps taken to prevent the marriage from going into that danger zone.  So I would like to offer some tips that I have gained through experience as a marriage counselor San Diego.

So what are the signs of danger of a troubled marriage? Well they can be many things.It could be problems with money, children issues, or even intimacy issues like sex, or even job related.As you are able to see, strains on the relationship can happen in so many areas.But getting at those issues early is what can save the marriage.  Allowing it to continue could lead to horrible consequences. 

So it is at those times, you should seek some marriage counseling San Diego.A counseling session can provide a safe environment to talk and address the issues.It is at these times when breakthroughs may happen and you can start resolving issues.

Also it provides a common and safe ground for the couple to engage in useful dialogue.  Often times dealing with those issues at home can actually escalate problems to the point of no return.

With a lot of good help to be found out there, letting common issues a lot of couples face become bigger than need be is needless.  Being a family therapist San Diego has allowed me to see it first hand.

I have been able to see how addressing issues before they begin a problem can make solving it much easier.  I have also seen how waiting to long or even not along, can turn a common problem into an issue that leads to divorce.

As mentioned before, with marriage being so important in society, that is a needless outcome. 

So for those that want to save their marriage, seeking a professional to help could be the thing that saves the relationship.

If this is the position you find yourself in, why not try it out.  You have nothing to lose.

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Dealing with Anger Management

Sunday, July 26th, 2009

Anger.  One of the most charged emotions a person can feel. To some, when it happens, they are not taken over by the emotion.It is maybe something that is a small irritation. It is something they can easily control.

For others, this can trigger intense fury and rage.  When that happens it gets out of control and turns destructive.This leads to other problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in your general quality of life.

A person who lets it get out of control is basically at the mercy of this emotion and its unpredictableness.

The goal of anger management counseling is to reduce the emotional feelings the physical arousal that anger causes.

With my experience in anger management San Diego I would like to explore a couple of ways to control this emotion.

First thing you can do is relax.One relaxation technique is to breath deeply.  You can also you calming images.  Another tool to use is to repeat slow calming words.

You don’t have to just use these techniques for anger.Try to practice it everyday if you know that anger is an issue in your life.

Second is to change the way you think.  Simply put, when you get angry you may swear, talk loudly, and express yourself very colorfully.  These are just an expression of your inner thoughts.What you are going to have to do is change the angry irrational thoughts into more reasonable rational ones.

Instead of allowing yourself to feel you have been wronged, try to tell yourself that this is not the end of the world.

Third, you have to communicate more effectively.When a person gets in a heated discussion or gets angry, the communications often breaks down.Rather than thinking before speaking, their emotions let them say whatever.

Slow down so you can think about how you are going to communicate your thoughts.

Finally, try to change the environment you are in.  A lot of times when we are angry or frustrated, just stopping and going someplace else can change our moods completely.

Changing your environment might just be enough to make your emotions calm and control your anger.

Although not all that we can say, these will be good pieces of advice to control anger.  If you find it does not, you will want to go get some professional help maybe with a family therapist San Diego.

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Surviving Depression

Thursday, July 16th, 2009

Depression is one of most powerful human emotions.It is one of those emotions if you leave untreated, could lead to something more serious for those suffering from it severely.

Everyone has those moments when they feel unhappy.  That is natural. But clinical depression goes beyond that.It is a disease.  But it is treatable.

I would like to offer some advice and tips that I have gained from my experience as a therapist in San Diego.

So when is depression clinical depression?

Firstly, a person might start to feel like everything is hopeless and sad.This when someone feels like everything is pointless.  Or life is not worth living. Which might lead to suicidal thoughts and feelings.

This can last for 2 weeks or more.When your depression is lasting that long, that is when you are moving to the state of clinical depression.

And when you hit that tipping point, you need to seek out a therapist.  Do not leave your condition untreated when it hits that point.Believe me, from my experience as a depression counselor I know.

So once you are at that point, you have to do certain things. Because sometimes imbalances in your body or chemistry in your brain can cause depression, you may need to treat it medically.You could use antdrepressant drugs as treatment.

Of course as a counselor, I prefer to treat it through depression counseling.A counselor helps a person start to get to the root of their depression and come to grips with it.

They can also look into using another form of therapy called cognitive behavior therapy which addresses how you thinkg.The goal is to turn those negative thoughts into positive ones by questioning them.

A therapist can also help you use relaxation techniques.If stress is the cause of depression, a good way to combat that form of stress is through relaxation.

Most of all a depression counselor will be the most effective person to find out what is causing the depression.

They are good in finding out if there was something that happened recently that may cause this.  They can find out if it is caused by something that happened in the past.  Or they can find out if it is caused by something going on in your body.  Whether it is some physiological change.

Depression is a condition that is treatable.But when you don’t know what caused it, you will not be able to treat it.  That is where finding a good therapist or counselor can help tremendously.

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