Posts Tagged ‘love hurts’

Don’t Regret the Easy Way Out

Sunday, July 26th, 2009

You can Save Your Relationship

No matter how bad it seems now

You’ve heard it over and overr… “Relationships are tough”. “Love hurts”. “Love is blind”. Blah, blah, blah, blah blah… Open your eyes, human…

The first truth about human relationships is that we are all idiots, who even if given a Life GPS, if one existed,
couldn’t find our way through a day by ourselves. Well, maybe not all of us, but certainly I was one. We’ve learned NOT to use logic
constantly listen to loser friends and people we don’t even know
(as I heard this this past week), we will call a complete stranger, ie- a radio station host and ask advice! IDIOTS!
We want someone else to help us blame
away from ourselves and flood ourselves with sympathty as we drown in our own sorrow.
How pathetic is that?

Isn’t it time to stop being so self-centered and realize that, it DOES take two to tango! Now there is a resource that I learned to help us.

My parents modeled the mold for strong relationships. When my Dad died at the age of 83 they were married for 56 years. Wow! 56 years
with the same partner. Think of it. That is REAL success. As one of four, I would attest that
our family is strong. They were not only successful in their relationship, but also great parents to the four of us.

Well as much as my parents made the mold, we kids broke it. Seventy-five percent of us divorced. Even in the US the average is only 50%!
I not only broke the mold, I completely
obliterated it. Why? This is why I am writing this to you. I’m one of the idiots who doesn’t know enough to learn about saving a relationship
and would rather find the fast way out, only to fail again. Yep, I’m in my fourth marraige. BUT, guess what? I am much better off now, than before!

Life is like business. Actually business is like life. Is that the same? To be successful in either you have to focus, measure, change,
measure again and constantly hone your course. Both take work and attention and if left on their own will typically fail. For us stupid
it is easier to rationalize failure than to achieve success. So how do we change that?

I can sit here and tell you about everything I learned, but by the time I finish, you will be 56 years old in the making too. Besides I’m
the definition of failed relationships. What I will tell you is about a resource I came across The Magic of Making Up, I wish I had in my twenties. I would have learned faster and not have taken most of my life to learn.
 

Find out more about Making Up here.