Relationship Advice Help With Love
Love is a big topic. We all want it. Yet in school we were taught very little about how to go about getting it. So here we are as adults often confused about how to get and grown and maintain love in our relationships.
Most of us relate to love like it is an emotion. A private inner feeling. And sometimes it is an inner feeling that we feel the need to protect or hide from the object of our love. Like if we express it we are vulnerable and we might get rejected or it might not be fully reciprocated.
However, what if you related to your true love like a beacon or lighthouse? A light or radiance to be shined and spread as often as you could? Something to be given fully rather than held inside? An emotion best turned into as many loving acts as possible?
What you may find is that love expressed and given freely is replenished easily. It is not something that needs to be kept inside and kept safe. When you feel true love, give it away, express it, act on it, and don’t be attached to what you get back.
So this article is to encourage you to turn love into action as often as possible. Express it. Give it away. Show your true love. It needs to be shouted from the rooftops rather than kept safe in the basement.
What are some of the actions that can express true love? There are so many. Listening to your mate like your life depends on it. Giving the gift of truly listening to another is a definite expression of deep love. Turning off our own thoughts and focusing deeply on what another thinks and says is a generous, unselfish act that makes the other person feel important and nurtured.
Another expression of true love is simply direct eye contact with the object of our affection. Looking them right in the eye, drinking them in while they or we are talking. The eyes are the windows of the soul, and direct connection is powerful. Studies show that direct eye contact tends to fade over time in relationships. Keep it alive!
And then of course a powerful expression of true love is touch. Not just sexual touch, but outside the bedroom. Just brushing their arm, giving hugs, these are direct expressions of affection that touch the heart easily.
There’s a lot more to expressing love, but listening, looking and touching are always a good foundation. Don’t keep the light of your love under a bushel basket. Take it off and let it shine as often as you can, and see what a difference in makes in your – and our – world.Relationship Advice Actions Steps you can consider taking for this insight:
1. Instead of looking for love, see if you can start to give it.
2. One way is to simply start listening to your mate like your life depends on it!
3. Make more direct eye contact!
4. How often do you touch and make physical contact with your mate?
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